A while ago I had a conversation with a friend of mine about doing video marketing. I was never really keen on the idea and she was very surprised. She told me that she was surprised because she thought I was a natural and seemed very comfortable in front of the lens…perhaps. I don’t really think so, but I am my own worst critic. I was uploading some of my video hangouts that I do with my friend Jason and I was looking through some of them. Of course right away I notice all the flaws about me, I will not point them out, but why is it that I go straight for the critique? Why do people do that? It seems that it is easier to criticize than it is to praise and encourage. Anyway that’s another subject I think. So back to my friend and the videos. I was telling her that I actually feel really uncomfortable in front of the camera and have a really hard time doing videos. So she tells me “divorce yourself from the results”, talk about instant click! Of course that makes sense!
Every opportunity you have to put yourself out there, you have to take it. However most people don’t. Why? Because #1 we are our own worst critics and #2 we worry too much about what other people think about us. Excuse my language, but who gives a flying shit about what other people think of you. Will you let that hold you back from who you really are or who you really want to be? Don’t you deserve to live your life in the manner you see fit? Divorce yourself from the results…meaning, once you put something out there, let it go. You don’t have to know if someone out there liked what you wrote, or if they watched your video and thought it sucked, or saw your picture and laughed at your crazy eyes or messed up teeth. Their reaction should mean nothing to you. Out of all the thousands of people that look at things all day, do they call you up directly and say “hey, you kinda suck”. No they don’t, you do it for them by over thinking and over criticizing. Let it go. I am learning and living this lesson daily so yes, I am practicing what I preach. You have permission to not give a rat’s patooty about what others think today. Now that doesn’t mean you go do crazy, off the wall, A-holey stuff, but you do get to be yourself with out the critique 😉
So I will continue to write my crazy ramblings and shoot those silly hangouts where I laugh too much and smile a lot. I will continue to put myself out there, because I’ve waited too long to do it. Btw I had a conversation last night about how I felt about other people reading my writing. The people that I KNOW. I still feel a little uncomfortable but not too much. The reason it doesn’t bother me too much is because I don’t reread or edit what I write and I don’t watch my own videos, so I don’t have the opportunity to critique myself anymore 😉
Anyhoo enjoy the day! Make it fabulous and put yourself out there!!